Divorce and money always seem to be intertwined and certainly not in a good way. Kind of like the chicken and the egg. Did money problems cause the divorce or did the divorce cause money problems? Usually, the answer to both questions is YES!
For many people, marriage involves financial stress…and lots of it. Money always seems to be tight for one reason or another. Perhaps one person is a spender and the other a saver. Or perhaps financial secrets were being kept. Or, maybe, as the couple grew older, their financial values shifted away from one another. No matter what occurs, there may be some financial disconnect between the couple that is unresolved and ultimately, among other factors, led to the separation.
But then, as a couple separates, they may start to wonder “If we couldn’t afford to comfortably live together in one household, how will we now support two separate homes? Where will each of us live? Will we need to get better paying jobs? How do we do that? What about the kids and their expenses? What about retirement?”
The process of separation and divorce, while very distressing may be simultaneously a wonderful opportunity for growth, and new possibilities that didn’t exist previously. The key is to plan and then take the action steps created which are necessary to move forward. You will be glad you did!
Certified Divorce Coach, Lawyer, Yoga Teacher, Divorced Parent