We, at Dear Divorce Coach, have coined the term “toxhole” to refer to an ex who is both toxic and an a**hole too. Although it’s a funny term, dealing with one is anything but laughable. There’s the ex who dumps you unreasonably or maybe doesn’t even give you the satisfaction of saying goodbye. Some exes treat you terribly in a relationship. Worse than both of those exes, however, are those, unhappy in your relationship but unhappier after the split. If you don’t have children with them, it’s easy to put as much distance between you and them as humanly possible and not be exposed to their negative fuming. But, what if you do have kids and are required to co-parent with them, or rather, with a toxhole, attempt to do so? There are no easy answers but there are some coping and communication strategies you can use to make your life more manageable. After all, you deserve to have a life after your relationship even if it appears their single-minded purpose is to ensure otherwise. Try these strategies and let us know your story and what we can do to help. We have tools to make life better, for you and your children.
Certified Divorce Coach, Lawyer, Yoga Teacher, Divorced Parent