What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner. – Colette.
It still amazes me how the minutiae of my day can make me notice only the hard parts, as if I am endlessly rowing against the current. If you are experiencing separation and divorce, this repeated pattern may lead you to believe it’s futile to consider joy as part of your daily life. It’s really up to you to decide something else. You are likely experiencing stress in a way that challenges your sense of self and your vision for the future and perhaps the future of your children. So, how do you re-frame and re-joice? Take these three steps each day to re-mind yourself of what is good and whole in yourself and your life.
When you must continue a relationship for the sake of the children, it is important to know how to deal with a Narcissist. So much advice focuses upon terminating relationships with narcissists. This is certainly not the possible when there are children involved. Although problems may have preceded the separation and divorce, the divorce may now lead a narcissist to behave in ways that punish the former spouse and, by clear association, impact the children too. This behavior occurs because it is very important for the narcissist to prop up a very fragile sense of self and creating an enemy helps them preserve the facade of greatness and avoid shame.
Certified Divorce Coach, Lawyer, Yoga Teacher, Divorced Parent